There is something extremely important to remember during all your planning for your wedding.  It's not just about the wedding; it's about relationships.  The wedding is only one day in your life.  The marriage is forever.  You want to build the relationship between the two of you to last a lifetime.  You have fallen in love and now you begin to work at being loving, understanding, supportive and forgiving.  At the same time you will be learning more about yourself and building foundations for years to come.  This work will form a strong bond which in turn will bring loving relationships with your future children or those from previous marriages.

The relationships between you and your fianc  are foremost, however there are many relationships to cultivate.  Those with your parents, friends, future in-laws and relatives are to be strengthened during this planning process.  You can avoid most stress that causes unnecessary conflicts by remembering what all the planning is for.  It's not about the color of the dresses or whether chicken or fish is served.  Keep this mantra in mind with all decisions: